Light A Candle In Memory of Someone You Loss

My father’s birthday is coming up on September 26. He would have been 84 years old.

There won’t be a birthday party, no phone calls, no visits this year. All I have are the memories that we shared in his last years.

I thought about his worm farm, and the dogs he raised to sell, and his garden filled with all types of leafy veggies, water melon, squash and corn. He loved to garden and in that regard I am a lot like him.

My father was an entrepreneur in many ways, not on a large scale but he used what he had, what he knew, and turned it into some type profit, even in his retirement years.

As I walked by the mantle today, I gazed upon his smiling face. Standing side by side I could see the resemblance in my face.

So today, absent my dad to talk to I thought I would light a candle in his memory, tell his story online to encourage others in what they are going through.

Maybe you want to light a candle for your loved one.

The Sting of Death Will Fade (Two Tips To Uplift Your Spirit)

In the past people I have cared for deeply died and I denied myself the closure so that I could keep them forever alive in my memory, rather than see them in that still form face up in a box. I’ve grown pass that stage. We can’t prevent people we love from dying. It is a fact. Many things can be controlled and prolonged in our lives but death, no one knows the hour.

The sting of death will fade but in the meantime here are some ways I have found to help me to get through. Journaling can help. Writing down those thoughts, whether painful or pleasant. The journal is not judgmental. It doesn’t care how many entries you make. It’s job is to be a bridge between the sting of pain in your heart and your creator.

After all, who else can you tell this to? He hears even in the penning of your words; those thoughts that no one knows but you, he knows.

Another way I found to ease the pain as the months went by, to gaze at pictures of family, including the one loss. Just seems to bring a smile, even though they are not here. Picture memories have a way of lightening our moods. The past and present reminding us that change comes right before our eyes.

The Sting of Death Will Fade. . . like the dew on the morning grass. Death is not the end, forever. No, death can be the beginning of something even more beautiful.

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Someone has Died- Choose Your Words Carefully

Need help in how to meet and greet the family of someone who has died? I use to feel awkward and didn’t want to visit the grieving family because I didn’t know what to say and felt like I would say something that would make what they were going through worst. Thanks, Jitske, for your input.

How To Create Memorial Cards

By Jitske Memoli

All of us are going to die in the future. Death is a fact of life that can not be changed. I know that accepting this truth can be scary and difficult to many people, but there is no way to go around it. The least we can do right now is to live our life to the fullest and enjoy every second of our existence here on Earth with the people we love and care.

When a person close to you dies, it usually feels like you are being dragged down and beaten up by some gang or mob. The pain is overwhelming and oftentimes, you just want to be alone and cry your heart out. You find it hard to face your friends and family because you are just plain clueless about what to do next.

When things like that happen, the people around you are often confused whether to comfort you, send you memorial cards, or talk to you. Many of them become uncomfortable with the situation because they do not want to say something offensive that can further add to your sorrow. Everybody seems to be on their toes during these times.

Remember to be polite and courteous when talking to them. Choose your words carefully because people in this state are delicate and vulnerable. If you are not sure about your conversational skills, writing them a memorial card would suffice. Use encouraging words so that they would see that they are being loved and cared for. Somebody who is sad and distressed because of the death of a special person is not easy to cheer up, but trying to at least calm them down and brighten them up is a thoughtful gesture. You would know this once you find yourself in the same situation in the future.

Experts advise that it is important that you show your support to the people who are mourning. You could pay them a visit on funeral day, write memorial cards, and just be there when they need you. People in grief need all the support system they could get, and it is essential that you are always ready to be on call.

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Comment: It is interesting how everyone is there when the death first takes place, offering to help in any way they can but once the burial happens everyone goes back to their lives and the person is left alone. Memorial cards could be a way to show that ongoing support for a little longer.

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