His journey is over here on earth. He has fought the good fight.
Even the wheel chair didn’t diminish his strong presence.
A strength I saw and admired as a child.
I was always drawn to Uncle Sonny Boy, as I called him.
He had this way of smiling at you, even when you were mischievous; you didn’t know whether he was pleased or about to beat you.
Whenever he would come to visit at grandma’s house I never saw him without his smile.
I say “his smile” because no one smiled like him. He always seemed to enjoy those brief moments we had together: the hugs and say a few words to his nieces and nephew.
The best part of those visits: Him giving us change for change to buy cookies or candy. He was always generous, loving and kind…yet didn’t play.
Yeah, those were memorable moments.
As I searched my memories of him, it was always a pillar of strength.
And lots and lots of children. At least when you are nine, everything seems huge.
I remember him doing hard work. Even his struggles never changed that smile. And there were times I sensed there were troubles.It never diminished his strength.
As I have observed his life from girlhood to womanhood, there is no greater gift Uncle Sonny could have given then this: Watching his marriage, him learning, growing and changing gave me hope for my marriage. Commit and don’t quit on the ones you love, even when it gets rocky show love without using words.
Develop an attitude of gratitude.Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Radiate your environment with the light of love and peace towards all
So many great lessons from just observation year after year.
I will miss his smile. I will miss his presence radiating the light of love and peace.
Uncle Sonny, your life has not been in vain, I have been touched and inspired by your walk, your presence.
Sleep until we meet again.
With Love,
Your niece Blondie
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Saturday, July 10, 2010
God, There Are Too Many People Dying
Death continues to happen around me. I use to be afraid of death until I found out the secret to not being afraid, or why I was really afraid. People are always afraid when they don’t know something, when they are uncertain about something, it is fearful.
I feel for people who lose a loved one, even if they are not my relatives. But I know death is inevitable. We are all going to die one day, it’s just a matter of when and how. I hope to live a very long time. My mother is 81; my father died when he was about 83.
A friend just loss his mother. It was tough. He had some hard decisions to make and he was struggling. I am always amazed how quick hospitals are ready to take a life. All of these modern advances and only people with money can extend their lives. It seems so unfair, but that is the country we live in and the greed that has taken root in our country.
Finally, moving through our pastor’s death. Felt a little angry because his health was in his hands but he made some decisions that were contrary to improving his lifestyle.
God, there are too many people dying prematurely because they won’t take care of their health.
My friend is rising above her grief. Some do it faster and others it takes a little longer. I’ve filled some gaps to give her the opportunity to work through her grief. A lesson I have learned that I will pass on. At first when a person dies, everyone is in and out. They need you afterward, so make time to drop by and visit. Do whatever you feel like doing for them because they won’t know what you can do for them.
Have patience in their moments of crying, frustration, reality. Sometimes a hug, or an ear is all that is needed. Don’t smother them. They won’t like that.
Buy little cards and small gifts for them just to let them know you care.
Read how I died to the past and was reborn in There In The Midst at www.print2publish.com book store.
I feel for people who lose a loved one, even if they are not my relatives. But I know death is inevitable. We are all going to die one day, it’s just a matter of when and how. I hope to live a very long time. My mother is 81; my father died when he was about 83.
A friend just loss his mother. It was tough. He had some hard decisions to make and he was struggling. I am always amazed how quick hospitals are ready to take a life. All of these modern advances and only people with money can extend their lives. It seems so unfair, but that is the country we live in and the greed that has taken root in our country.
Finally, moving through our pastor’s death. Felt a little angry because his health was in his hands but he made some decisions that were contrary to improving his lifestyle.
God, there are too many people dying prematurely because they won’t take care of their health.
My friend is rising above her grief. Some do it faster and others it takes a little longer. I’ve filled some gaps to give her the opportunity to work through her grief. A lesson I have learned that I will pass on. At first when a person dies, everyone is in and out. They need you afterward, so make time to drop by and visit. Do whatever you feel like doing for them because they won’t know what you can do for them.
Have patience in their moments of crying, frustration, reality. Sometimes a hug, or an ear is all that is needed. Don’t smother them. They won’t like that.
Buy little cards and small gifts for them just to let them know you care.
Read how I died to the past and was reborn in There In The Midst at www.print2publish.com book store.
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